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Be Thankful for Today – You Only Get it Once

Thanksgiving is a wonderful holiday.  It’s the one day out of the year that we can take a moment and be thankful – no gracious – for what we have and the people in our lives.  Whether you are going through divorce, or just thinking about divorce, or have no interest in divorce at all and you just stumbled across this page, take a minute today to watch this video and remember the things that matter most in your life. We all have so much to be grateful for. I wish you and your family a wonderful holiday.

George Zimmerman Divorce – What if it happened in NC?

George Zimmerman Divorce - What if it happened in NC?

I realized that the George Zimmerman Divorce is no longer new news, (his wife file last month), but because I am licensed in both North Carolina and Florida, from time to time I like to take a look at these celebrity cases and compare and contrast how this case would play out if it were filed here in North Carolina versus being filed in Florida. According to the Orlando Sentinel, Ms. Zimmerman is requesting custody of their dogs and an equitable distribution of their property. Unlike North Carolina, in Florida there is no separation period to file for divorce. The person […]

Alimony Guidelines in Colorado – Could North Carolina be next?

Alimony Guidelines in Colorado - Could North Carolina be next?

Alimony Guidelines will become law in Colorado beginning on January 1, 2014. The new alimony guidelines will affect couples who have been married between 3 and 20 years, and who have combined incomes of not more than $240,000. According to the Denver Post, Colorado will join Maine, Texas, Pennsylvania, Oklahoma and New Jersey as the next state that uses a “maintenance formula” to determine an appropriate amount of spousal support. Under the new formula, the court will take 40% of the “supporting” spouses income, and subtract 50% of the “dependent” spouses income, resulting in an alimony amount that can be […]

Mom with Breast Cancer loses Custody of kids

A Mom in Durham, NC recently lost custody of her children because she was diagnosed with breast cancer.  In an extremely sad case, and yet another shining example of why collaborative law is such a promising tool for resolving family law conflicts, Alaina Giordano has lost custody of her two children because of a terminal breast cancer diagnosis. Judge Nancy Gordon gave custody of the children to Ms. Giordano’s abusive husband who now resides in Chicago in part because “the course of [Ms. Giordano’s] disease is unknown, and “children who have a parent with cancer need more contact with the […]

Tips to make your divorce easier

Last week the Raleigh News and Observer ran a story entitled “4 tips to make your divorce easier for your divorce attorney and yourself.”  Those tips included telling your lawyer the truth, get help from a therapist if you need it, listen to your attorney’s advice, and organize your documents before you give them to the attorney so that they don’t have to spend lots of time trying to figure out what you gave them. While I think this is a great starting point, and strongly believe that you should follow much of this advice, there is one little tip […]

Divorce Insurance… Really?

I’m just trying to picture the look on my wife’s face if she found out that I went an purchased divorce insurance… it wouldn’t be good, that’s for sure.  But behold, there is now such a thing – insurance that gives you a payout if your marriage fails.  Ironically enough, the product was dreamed up by a North Carolina man who lost his savings when he split from his wife. The plan costs approximately $16/month for every $1, of coverage, and you have to pay in advance for 4 years before the policy will pay out.  For every year that […]

Florida Ban on Gay Adoption is Unconstitutional

Finally, Florida got it right.  After a number of years of fighting a system that says that gay people in Florida are unfit to be parents, the Appeals court in Miami has unanimously ruled that Florida’s law that bans gay adoption is unconstitutional. Last Wednesday’s decision means that Frank Martin Gill will be allowed to remain the parent of his two sons.  Gill and his longtime partner adopted these children from the state’s foster-care system in 2008.  Gill had been foster-parenting the boys since 2004.  If the statute were upheld, Gill would be forced to put his boys back into […]

Divorce and Parenting in Raleigh

If you are a parent and facing a divorce in Raleigh, North Carolina, one of the main issues that you are going to have to come to terms with is how to co-parent your child with your soon-to-be ex-spouse.  One of the nice things about Wake County, and Raleigh in particular, is that there are lots of wonderful activities that you can take your children to in an effort to get their minds off of the trauma of the divorce or separation. Whether you live in Cary or Raleigh, each community puts out a Recreational Guide each season that lists […]

Divorce during the Holidays – What to do?

Divorce during the Holidays - What to do?

As we come upon the end of summer and the Labor Day weekend, it is important to make sure that you stay calm and collected during the weekend’s festivities.  Whether you are just thinking about the idea of separating from your spouse, your divorce is in its final stages, or you are somewhere in between – this is a weekend to focus on family and children, and not cause unnecessary stress at family gatherings. Here are a couple of tips to consider, no matter where you are in the process: Maintain a cool head.  Divorce is an emotional, traumatic event […]